I love this photo of my grandfather and brother for so many reasons. Mainly, I love it because it captures two versions of the expression “beaming with pride.” Pampaw, probably in his mid-70s here, stifles a solemn delight in Clay’s big kill while his 14-year-old grandson buzzes euphorically that he absolutely frickin’ nailed it. They are connected in joy over a shared love for hunting. Of course, I also am enamored by Pampaw’s bougie full-zip pelt coat (I’m actually sweating right now looking at it), and the fact this deer was transported from the Hill Country to San Antonio on an empty feed bag in the trunk of his brown Lincoln Continental. Rich.

Developing common interests with grandchildren is the trophy of a life well lived — though you can’t hang it over the fireplace, or make some stifling sheath from it. It breeds connection, memories, new skills and knowledge. And don’t forget joy!

My grandmothers shared their passions with me and those included writing letters, praying, making retail purchases on the cheap, watching salacious television shows and forgoing cooking with the exception of goulash and American cheese chalupas. They both tried to teach me to use a sewing machine and instill the value of thick night creams like Ponds or light swipes of Lubriderm because I “had the driest skin.” They also encouraged me to get permanents, which I did on several stinky occasions. On a macro level, they connected with me by promoting family gatherings, travel and meals and saying “I love you” on the regular.

I look forward to finding the interests and activities that will draw me closer to my future grandchildren, if I am so fortunate to have any during my lifetime. In the meantime, I will continue to pursue shared experiences with our adult children that will fortify my legacy and add to their advancement as adults. What are you thinking? How will you share your passions and interests with the young people you love? Like a heavy deer pelt coat, connection wraps us up in love and helps us retain the warmth of family relationships generation after generation.